Wendy Knee
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TAKING CONTROL
(A taster of Wendy's new book)
So what are you waiting for?
Are you waiting for that lightning moment when all will be revealed or
just jogging along until something happens to make you do something? I
understand that there is no reason to upset the boat but who is rowing
the boat? Stand back and look at what you are doing and why you are doing
it. Is there anything missing? I suggest that the reason you are reading
this book is because there is something missing in your life. It is not
always easy to pin point exactly what it is but by doing nothing, that
is what you are doing nothing.
The days become weeks, the weeks become years and before you know it you
are going to more funerals than weddings. Only you can make it happen.
Only you can lead by example. Only you can choose what you want to do.
Otherwise you are letting other people make decisions for you. Wasting
time being indecisive or blaming your situation for neglecting yourself
is tantamount to waiting for death.
What’s Holding You Back?
A big reason for not taking control of your life is fear. Fear of failure,
fear of thinking too big, wanting too much, what will happen when you
achieve your dreams? It is more comfortable to stay where you are than
to step out of your comfort zone and have a go at what you really want.
You probably don’t realise that you have this kind of fear. We wouldn’t
tell our children not to try harder to get a better result, we wouldn’t
stop a friend or colleague from making progress, why do it to yourself,
the most important person you know. It would be a tragedy if you lay on
your death bed wishing that you had at least had a go or ventured a bit
further afield to explore new experiences. It’s never too late to
follow your dream. When somebody else gets up and does what it is that
you always dreamt of doing you will beat yourself up wishing that you
had gone for it. Crash through that pain barrier and go for what you want.
Take one step at a time.
What is the scariest thing that you have done?
What is the scariest thing that you have ever done? Jumping out of an
aeroplane, swimming in deep water, going for a new job? You did it, you
overcame it and now you can do something else. Take control you can accomplish
a lot more than you give yourself credit for. For the millennium my brother
took singing lessons, he wanted to be able to sing at a karaoke night.
We had a party, he sang and we laughed and applauded and couldn’t
believe his enthusiasm, courage and great performance. We had a great
night. He overcame his fear and he did what he had always wanted to do.
Start Dreaming:
What is it that you have always wanted to do? Collect as much information
as you can and then do something towards your goal, no matter how small.
By doing something you are taking control of what it is that you want
to achieve. Believe in what you want and stay focused. It is not what
other people want necessarily and you will have to be strong to keep moving
towards your goal. It is what you want; it is your desire, not theirs.
Keep motivated, keep moving and stay focused. Write it down and revisit
your words. How can you improve on what you have written, is there something
missing, are you asking for exactly what you want.
I wanted a beach hut and put my name down on the list. A hut came up but
it wasn’t quite what I wanted but never mind, it was available.
I went and looked at it, it wasn’t quite what I wanted, I wanted
one on the seafront and larger. Ask for what you want. I went back to
the office and asked for exactly what I wanted, thinking that I would
have to wait years. I was told that I would almost certainly be able to
have one for the winter months, which is when I most wanted it and I could
go on the list for one coming up in the summer season. I assumed that
it would be impossible to get one in a prime spot that is until I was
specific in asking for what I wanted. Don’t settle for second best,
you will feel short changed.
Stay Positive:
Ignore those negative thoughts, listen to advice and then make your own
decision. Once you have made your decision, take action you can achieve
your goal simply by staying focused and doing something about it. Feel
the happiness that is within you, start living instead of ‘waiting’
for life to happen. Those other people around you with their negative
thoughts and ‘waiting’ for something to happen will disappear
and you will find yourself with new positive people, people who are on
the same wavelength as you. Take control of your life and like minded
people will come along. You will be open to new opportunities and experiences.
There’s no time like the present. Change your attitude and start
working on the new positive you. It’s all yours just waiting for
you to take the first move. All you have to do is to change the way that
you think and then act in that way taking action.
I met a woman in my singing group who wanted to travel and it wasn’t
possible. Two years later I met up with her again, she has met a new man
and they are going to rent out their house for a year and go cycling.
They have a plan to cycle across Europe for six months and then carry
on travelling across Asia and onwards for another six months. They went
to Cornwall for a weekend to practice their cycling skills and camping
experience. It was hard work and they made a decision not to kill themselves
but if necessary to get on a train now and then. The house is let, their
panniers are packed and they leave in a couple of weeks. They are doing
what they want to do, they are taking control. You may not want to follow
in their steps but they are on life’s journey and who knows where
it will lead? Who is in control of your life?
If we
want to direct our lives, we must take control of our consistent actions.
It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what
we do consistently.
Anthony Robbins
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